Polyamory means having simultaneous close emotional, and possibly sexual, relationships with two or more other individuals with the knowledge and consent of all partners concerned. The growing practice of polyamory in the U.S. indicates a significant shift in the way marriage and intimate relationships have evolved over the last few decades. This is the first book on the topic written for a general audience, for both those interested in practicing polyamory and those who have no intention of doing so. Readers who would like to better understand what this increasingly visible way of relating is all about will find answers here. People who do practice polyamory will find a careful analysis of the lifestyle and the various issues, concerns, and rewards that grow out of this lifestyle.
Labriola uses real life examples and expert insight as a counselor and nurse. From how to handle jealousy to the practicalities of managing money and time with multiple partners, this book includes tips and insights from the polyamory community.
Beyond the basics of polyamory lies a complex web of negotiations, agreements, pitfalls and rewards. Kathy Labriola, a relationships counselor who has worked for many years with singles, couples and groups in polyamorous and open relationships, sets forth some of the realities of alternative lifestyles: dealing with some of the common relationship-disrupters, managing jealousy, choosing compatible partners, combining BDSM with polyamory, distinguishing between sex addiction and polyamory, and much more.
This enlightening work investigates the history, incidence, and causes of a unique sexual lifestyle pursued by increasing numbers of couples. It is called by many names, and lived in a variety of ways by different couples. The most common terms used to describe it are ´hotwife´ or ´cuckold lifestyle.´ This sexual practice, a form of sexual nonmonogamy, is distinguished from swinging and polyamory in that the husband rarely seeks sexual contact outside the marriage except for participation in group sex with his wife and other men, while the wife is permitted and often encouraged to pursue unrestrained sexual encounters with other men. The author includes interviews and comments from couples living the lifestyle throughout the U.S., and presents the stories in an attempt to determine the history of this sexual practice and its role in society and in relationships. He explores the psychological, social, biological, and evolutionary underpinnings of this uncommon and socially taboo behavior in an effort to make it more comprehensible to those engaged in the lifestyle and those who are just curious.
Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, ´´Opening Up´´ explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships -- from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. ´´Opening Up´´ will change the way you think about intimacy.
In der heutigen Gesellschaft genießt die Monogamie als Beziehungsmodell eine wenig hinterfragte Monopolstellung. Doch schon lange hat sich das romantische Ideal ´´ewiger Liebe´´ als unrealistisch erwiesen und ist einer eher ernüchternden Praxis der ´´seriellen Monogamie ´´ gewichen. Ohne die Illusion, es könne nur eine einzige wahre Liebe geben, wird der Sinn von ´´Treue´´ aber fragwürdig. Warum muss eine alte Liebe enden, wenn eine neue beginnt? Im Buch wird der Umgang mit Liebe und Sexualität neu überdacht. Der Autor zeigt, dass sich Gefühl und Verstand, Verbindlichkeit und Freiheit nicht entgegenstehen müssen. Das monogame Liebesmodell beruht auf Vorurteilen und beinhaltet Zumutungen, die nicht nur aus hedonistischen, sondern auch aus ethischen Gründen kritikwürdig sind. Auch Alternativen wie ´´Don´t ask, don´t tell´´-Vereinbarungen, Swinger-Beziehungen und Polyamory werden einer kritischen Diskussion unterzogen.