For most people today, romantic love is tantamount to monogamy. However, the ideal of “one true love” which lasts forever has long given way to the sobering reality of serial monogamy. The simple fact that a life may comprise more than one love poses a challenge to our established conception of fidelity. Why must one love end when another one begins?In this book, the meaning of love and sexuality is reassessed. The author points out that emotion and reason, commitment and freedom do not have to be at odds. Monogamy as a relationship model is shown to rest on questionable pre-conceptions. Its impositions prove objectionable not only from a hedonistic, but also from an ethical point of view. Alternative models like “Don’t ask, don’t tell” agreements, swinging and polyamory are reviewed.
A journey from monogamy to swinging and polyamory starts with a single kiss. Over the course of two novels by Cooper S. Beckett, follow Jennifer and Ryan Lambert who have reached the very edge of their marital contentment, wondering if this is just what modern marriage looks like. When they meet the Shepards, they find Bruce and Paige so very sophisticated, witty...sexy. The Shepards don't seem to have any of the boredom that has crept into their own marriage. They're at ease, they're funny, they're...flirty? Everything makes more sense when Jennifer and Ryan find out the truth about Bruce and Paige. The Shepards are swingers, and the Lamberts want in. The next several years of their lives will be a wild ride through the intense hedonistic world of the swinging lifestyle and into polyamory, an erotic journey of orgies, swingers parties, miscommunication, surprise attraction, and exploring sexuality, that ultimately takes them to the tropical paradise of a swingers resort in Mexico. Along with Bruce and Paige and other exploring couples, they have descended upon Aphrodite's Resort and Spa, a place of pleasure and debauchery, situated on a strip of white sand beach on the Riviera Maya for a week of the finest food and drink, meeting and flirting, and getting down and dirty with friends and lovers alike for tales of swinging and polyamory in paradise. Previously published separately, A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching the Swinglarity, two novels by Cooper S. Beckett, are now available in a single volume along with two additional short stories from The Swingularity. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Cooper S. Beckett, Kat Stark, Emily Sotelo Matlack, Flick Morrison, Ophilia Tesla, Miko Technogeisha, John Gaines, Angela Elmore, Tristan Taormino. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/acx0/119349/bk_acx0_119349_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
Starting with a first date with a couple of swingers; followed by working through social anxiety and shyness; recognizing the importance of touch in life; evolving feelings about love and expectations; having threesomes, orgies, and prostate orgasms; going through a divorce; and leveling up in life and sexuality. For five years, Cooper S. Beckett has written for Life on the Swingset. The website was born out of the feeling that he'd learned enough in his whole year of swinging to tell other people how to live their nonmonogamous lives. His hubris can be seen from space. Here, he has collected personal essays, stories, erotica, and prescriptive how-tos into this memoir of his life, My Life on the Swingset. He may be biased when it comes to swinging, polyamory, and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy (in fact, he most certainly is), but he doesn't sugarcoat it. He speaks honestly and earnestly about a unique way to live life, one that allows for sexual and loving growth and experimentation, a strong sense of community, and the ability to do what we all crave, whether we know it or not: to be honest with ourselves and others about what we want sexually. And out of life. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Cooper S. Beckett. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/acx0/039934/bk_acx0_039934_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
It's Exit to Eden meets The Rum Diary! Spend seven days at the hedonistic tropical paradise of a swingers resort in Mexico. Just enough time to get into some very sexy trouble! Ryan and Jenn are still newbie swingers in many ways when they arrive with their friends, lovers, and playmates, Bruce and Paige, veterans of this trip. As this foursome tries to wring out every last drop of pleasure that Aphrodite's Resort and Spa has to offer, they're confronted with the realities of life at home, as well as complexities of exploring a life less monogamous, the spectrum of sexuality, budding and waning attraction and love, and how one truly gets the most out of an orgy. Alongside them are Alejandra and Crista, a lesbian couple on their first sexy vacation, recognizing the differences and difficulties in being the only lesbian swingers in the crowd. Raymond Horne is the host extraordinaire, on his tenth trip, who is losing his confidence and direction after watching his partner walk out the door the month before. One hundred and eleven couples have descended upon Aphrodite's, a place of pleasure and debauchery, situated on a strip of white sand beach on the Riviera Maya for a week of the finest food and drink, meeting and flirting, and getting down and dirty with friends and lovers alike for tales of swinging and polyamory in paradise. They will experience ecstasy and strain, the spectrum of sexuality and open relationships, from bisexual exploration, budding polyamory, orgies, pegging, the value of building kegel muscles, G-spot orgasms, and more. Nothing is quite so intense and wonderful in non-monogamous lifestyles as seven straight days at a resort filled with like-minded hedonists. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Cooper S. Beckett, Kat Stark, Emily Sotelo Matlack, Ophilia Tesla, Miko Technogeisha, John Gaines, Flick Morrison. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/acx0/096508/bk_acx0_096508_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
Susie begins the show with a look into the strange credibility of polyamory. One of Susie's new favorite political blog sites called Freaksexual lists all the reasons why multiple partners are "in". Susie gets into the many aspects of polyamory from it's anti-fidelity and non-monogamous appeal, to it's swinging queer-friendly side. Next, Susie reveals the outcome of Bush's Abstinence education programs: They don't work! A new report by a nonpartisan research group finds that abstinence programs appear to have little impact on teenagers delaying sex. Oh Susie has a heyday with this one. Tune in to have a good laugh and get a reality check. Then, in the "Try This at Home" mailbag, Susie helps calm down a listener who worries if his sex life will survive his wife's pregnancy? Don't forget, you can send your confidential questions, feedback about the show, and requests for girly cards to firstname.lastname@example.org. (Episode 323, December 28, 2007) Explicit Language Warning: You must be 18 years or older to purchase this program. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Susie Bright. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/pf/suzy/071228/pf_suzy_071228_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
Marriage and monogamy are not what they used to be, and today many couples are opting to start families before getting married, or deciding not to get married at all. At the same time, gay couples in states that recognize same-sex marriage are getting married in droves. Some people prefer non-monogamy and have relationships that include swinging and polyamory. The landscape of American marriage and relationships is changing, and a variety of family systems are developing and becoming more common. The Polyamorists Next Door introduces polyamorous families, in which people are free to pursue emotional, romantic, and sexual relationships with multiple people at the same time. They do it openly and with support from their partners, sometimes forming multi-partner relationships or other arrangements that allow for emotional and sexual freedom within the family system. In colorful and moving details, this audiobook explores how polyamorous relationships come to be, how they grow and change, how they manage the ins and outs of daily family life, and how they cope with the challenges they face both within their families and from society. Using polyamorists own words, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff examines polyamorous households and reveals their advantages, disadvantages, and the daily lives of those living in them. While polyamorous families are increasingly common, fairly little is known about them outside of their own social circles or of the occasional media sensationalism. This book provides information that will be useful for professionals with polyamorous clients, educators who wish to understand or teach polyamory, and especially people who wish to better understand polyamory themselves or explain it to their potential partners, adult children, or in-laws. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Johanna Oosterwyk. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/acx0/042590/bk_acx0_042590_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
If you've ever wondered if being a sexual swinger is for you, this show is a must listen. This week, Susie interviews award-winning author, columnist, editor, and sex educator Tristan Taormino, and the topic of conversation is open relationships and how you make them work. Susie gets Tristan to reveal the juiciest parts of her new book Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. The girls discuss what to do when your lover hogs you at an orgy (isn't that where getting it on with someone new is encouraged?), and what the difference is between polyamory and swinging. They also tackle the darker side of open relationships: abandonment and jealousy.Don't forget, you can send your confidential questions, feedback about the show, and requests for girly cards to email@example.com. (Episode 345, June 20, 2008) Explicit Language Warning: You must be 18 years or older to purchase this program. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Susie Bright. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/pf/suzy/080620/pf_suzy_080620_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
Brenda was inspired to write this book when she began dating again after her divorce. The dating scene had completely changed since the last time she was actively looking for a partner so she did what she does best and began to do some research. This is when she was introduced to ethical non-monogamy. While she had dabbled in swinging towards the end of her marriage, this was different. The more she researched the idea the more it appealed to her so she began to apply ethical non-monogamy to her life. This audiobook is the story of her transition into polyamory featuring actual journal entries from her during the rise and fall of her relationships that brought her to where she is now. In between her personal stories, she breaks down the scientific research that has been done related the topic of monogamy versus non-monogamy to see if there is a best way to do relationships. 1. Language: English. Narrator: B.L Wiebe. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/acx0/129903/bk_acx0_129903_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.
Can you really be a shy, exhibitionistic, socially anxious slut all at the same time?Twenty years into her marriage, Kat and her husband faced head-on the great underlying fear of most monogamous people: My partner wants to have sex with other people. For them, that truth led to a rollercoaster of new sexual and romantic adventures. After starting things off with a fun and friendly threesome, this couple explore ethical non-monogamy through swinging, casual sex, group sex, solo dating, and eventually stumble into polyamory. Kat Stark tells the story of her first three years in non-monogamy, and how her life and relationship(s) evolved, from the dirty, dirty sex to the heartbreak and back again, without glossing over the parts where she effed it right up. Along the way, she discovers squirting orgasms, plays with all the awesome sex toys she can get her hands (and other body parts) on, and comes to a far deeper understanding about how her brain - and heart - work. Come on this very sexy journey; where asking is the key to getting what you want, and where rejecting the shame and associated with being a sexually audacious woman is the gateway to becoming the truest version of oneself. 1. Language: English. Narrator: Kat Stark. Audio sample: http://samples.audible.de/bk/acx0/139172/bk_acx0_139172_sample.mp3. Digital audiobook in aax.